James says, “Faith without works is dead.” What is forgiveness without communication? If you tell me that you forgive me and in the same breath say, “Never contact me again.” What is the value of that forgiveness?
God asked me to forgive my first wife. He asked, so I had to forgive. But I cannot talk with her. From the beginning she was a liar and a thief. She manipulated, isolated and trapped. I am not clever enough to sort through her many lies. It is best for me not to listen to her. It only confuses me.
Although God has never asked me to forgive the man who raped me, and I assume that by now he is dead and burning in hell, I have seen enough that I wonder deep in the back of my head if he was a victim who turned into a predator, I do not know and am almost ready to forgive him.
I did curse him at the time. It was a terrible curse to him and everyone like him. A slow and painful death, that if I had a copy of that letter, if I were to publish it, you would think that I described in that curse the disease we now call AIDS. Think what you wish. He violated a child of God. A representative of God. God gave me the power to decide his fate. It is better for a man to tie a millstone around his neck and be cast into the sea than to cause one of these innocent ones to fall. Matt 28.
Anyway, the point here is that I do not talk with him either.
I spent a lot of time and effort last year trying to communicate with my second wife. She has a master’s in psychology. She taught me much of what I know. She would have been very useful as a collaborator for this project and other projects that I see in the future. She never responded. Well I did receive a call from the police wherein she accused me of taking her purse and passport from the car parked in her drive. That was the day I placed in her mailbox, a hard copy of this site.
This year, I have determined not to contact her. It is sad. I have met her husband. We got along great. She threatens him with divorce if he talks with me.