What pornography is to a man, Romance Novels are to a woman.
The problem with pornography is it is not real. It is a world of make-believe. What you see here is a number of abused woman being exploited in various ways. I say women, I should have said girls and boys. What happens behind the cameras? How is it these children of God could be brought to such a place? Who knows what happens behind the camera. The camera lies. Look at Hollywood. As I write this, sex scandal after sex scandal is reported from Hollywood. People in power, we now know, have been using woman with ambition to an advantage. What happens? What abuse?
What is the reality of marriage? The reality is that it takes a lifetime for one man to get to know a woman. God has made these creatures in such a unique manor that a lifetime is not enough to get to know them fully. Look at the various aspects of life. The physical is only one small part, but the physical includes the hormonal, the response mechanism includes the psychological and emotional. Look at Maslow, the safety and the comfort requirement. No. Sexual response includes the entire being.
Serotonin is produced in both people, between both people, through the comfort and gentle response of each other. Right brain to right brain occurs only when people talk face to face and are in agreement.
Pornography, like rape, has nothing to do with this absolute fullness of sexuality. Total sexuality involves a lifetime exploring who the other person is. Pornography is the use and abuse of the moment. It has nothing to do with the reality of getting to know who God made that other person to be.
Like any addiction, pornography bypasses the plan God has for us as a future couple. Stimulating us to arousal through artificial means, it not only titillates our pleasure center, but also activates the production of other chemicals intended for use in bonding between two people. When the bonding is later broken, the trauma of such brokenness adds to our overall trauma. Here is the lie: Although some of the pathways God intended for bonding are used. The bonding between a man and pornography is false. Not real. A partial stimulation occurs temporarily, but the true desire is for a lifetime union: This is left empty. There is no union with a piece of paper and ink. Abuse is a lie. It has nothing to do with love.
Fortunately, I did not develop an addiction to pornography. Like any addiction, it can start innocently enough and quickly overwhelm us. Perhaps it is because I look to see the person behind the pictures that protected me. I see the pain and the suffering of people being used. Nevertheless, in researching the subject of masturbation, the computer was very explicit and exposure to such information is troubling even for an old man who has lived through it. The sex industry is very aggressive. Satan knows how to exploit and entrap people. No one is immune.
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